I have been married for 16years now. I ran out 5years ago to save me and I am a Survivor.
So when should you run out of marriage to save your sanity and your life?
When you are half dead or when you have incurable diseases or when you are no longer fertile?
It is Complicated!!!
It is easier said than done, he who wears the shoes knows where it pinches.
Our parents will say "Please manage and keep on praying things will get better I don't want my kinsmen and my friends to laugh at me" and your daughter is dying in her husband house?
Christianity in Nigeria is majorly what they cling unto quoting the bible where it says. You should not divorce rather you stay there for better for worst. It is not fair am speaking from experience I almost lost my life holding on to a marriage and obeying clergies by trusting God for a change
God did not answer me until I left that toxic marriage.
It is controversial but it is the truth.
When it is not working,when you are been abused and molested.
When he promises to send you to school,start you a good business but rather he turned you to a baby factory and a nanny.
When he leaves you to go and live with another woman
When he turns you to a punching bag
When he inflicts pains on you emotionally and you have high blood pressure, depression, dementia etc.
Leave the marriage first and seek help to save yourself. That is when Separation takes place it is easier that divorce. So do that first when you feel you no longer need the marriage or when you have tried everything, forgiving, therapy and all the like and it is still not working then the decision is yours to take.
So it is applicable to men. Women too are no saints. They inflicts pains on men too,cheating, extortion,betrayals, attempting to kill their spouses to runaway with another man.Giving the man someone else's child to train.
Many men have fallen victims.
To reduce deaths and mental disorder in marriages; I think is high time we educate ourselves and be wise. Wisdom is profitable to direct.
